I shouldn't have to cry on my birthday

I love my Mom to death and I am very thankful to have her in my life...
She, without a doubt, raised my brother and I to the best of her ability, especially being a single parent since I was 3.  She has been there for us through thick and thin...
BUT

was what just happened really necessary?

Can I talk to my father on the phone without having to be guilt tripped?

I can't help that he wanted to hear from me on my Birthday.
I can't help that I haven't talked to him in a little while, so our conversation was longer than expected.
I can't help that I love him just as much as I love her, so why do I get punished for it?

Dad text me to ask how things were going and what I wanted for my birthday.

I miss him very much, more than I’d expect. I know I’m almost 22 and my weekend visitations would’ve subsided once I turned 18.. but it still sucks to not have him here in Kentucky.
You know what I want for my birthday day? To get to see you. Twice a year isn’t enough.